Preface
Learned about this book from a friend, not much content, but gained a lot from it
Who Am I?
I am ayqy, I am a student, I am a programmer, I am a clumsy child... None of these are the answer, because I am not my name, I am not my profession, nor am I my identity.
I am a horse-drawn carriage, with a horse, a driver, and a passenger:
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Carriage Model[/caption]
The body is the carriage body; the horse pulling the carriage is the little self (ego, or said to be conscious mind); the horse's behavior is controlled by the driver, the driver is the subconscious; the carriage's route and destination are decided by the passenger, the passenger is the true self. This is the carriage model, very ingenious.
In life, the body's behavior is mainly controlled by the subconscious. Why habitually walk on the right side, why vaguely agreed to him (this actually has similarities with the viewpoint in "Influence"), the subconscious controls many behaviors, such as breathing, walking and simple decisions (turn left or right). The true self controls the big direction, where to go, what to do later, what kind of person to become. The little self controls every action detail, but the little self is easily influenced by emotions, temporarily breaking away from the subconscious control, walking into the grass beside for a while, or standing by the road in a daze for a while, or even throwing a tantrum and running back for a while. At this time, the driver pulls the reins, the horse feels the face tightening, unconsciously turns back to the route, but is not aware that the turn is because the driver is controlling. The body is the foundation, if the body is not strong enough, it's hard to move even an inch.
Some important decisions must be made by the passenger combining experience and knowledge, decisions made by the driver are likely unreasonable. For example, when traveling, the subconscious may follow the crowd to queue at a small stall, at this time as long as the true self takes back control, thinks about why queuing, will give up queuing and return to the established route. Some decision errors are likely not intentional, but decisions made by the subconscious for you, the subconscious is the ancient ape man said in "Dark Time", decisions are based on survival rules of ancient times, these rules may not apply to modern environment. So the goal of cultivating the mind (or called "spiritual cultivation") is to expand the true self, shrink the subconscious and little self, take back more control to make wise decisions.
Darling, There Is No One Else Outside, Only Yourself.
This sentence explains why environment affects mood, actually it's not the environment affecting mood, but mood changing one's view of the environment, the external environment is just a projection of the inner world. For example, failing in promotion, the next day finding colleagues' looks full of sarcasm, later knowing oneself exceptionally promoted successfully, looking back feels that colleagues' eyes at that time were not mockery but encouragement. After failing, the little self is struck, produces some inferiority and shyness emotions, looking at the external environment with such emotions, naturally feels the whole world is full of mockery for this poor person. Knowing the unexpected result, the little self's confidence expands, mood is great, also feels the whole world is full of beauty, looking at previously disliked people doesn't feel so repulsive. Facts are objective, without color, inner feelings are different, feelings about the environment are different. Projecting inner unrest onto others, will feel others make oneself unhappy, actually there is no one else outside, only yourself.
Playing Various Roles Every Day, Who Am I After All?
I am not ayqy, not a student, not a programmer nor a clumsy child, I am not my identity, I am just me, change an environment, I look like a different me.
If mistakenly thinking I am my identity, once losing identity, will receive great blow. In the RPG of life, must simultaneously play many roles well, some roles' behavior may not be intentional, but this has no effect on the true self, only temporarily changes the little self's behavior, I am still me.
Secret to Eliminating Emotions
I see I am seeking unhappiness, I wholeheartedly accept this feeling, and let go of the need for it.
The key to eliminating emotions is accepting emotions, the more rejecting and denying, the more intense, even sometimes need to write down and read several times daily, can eliminate particularly intense emotions only after continuing for a period of time. Emotions not only affect the little self, but also affect the subconscious, mutual influence will cause decision errors, then enter vicious cycle, emotions become more and more inflated, inner heart becomes more and more unhappy.
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Meeting Your Unknown Self[/caption]
Book Review
The wisdom of the carriage is eye-opening
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